I don’t have too much advice, but Mr. RampantBadger mentioned it has a minor influence.
It’s really hard to make assumptions on forums, I don’t normally give any advice but I’m just a tiny bit older (tiny bit mind you) than your wife. I’m finding it harder to shift the weight, but I have a couple of issues of my own. From my experience most of us feel tired from an increasingly demanding career in our 30’s, extra stress, etc, not only just our bodies changing, but slowly our habits. What used to just work for us, slowly stops. Kind of frustrating, but you have to experiment on yourself.
Is she on birth control, or has changed birth control over the last couple of years? Does she or has she ever done any lifting before? I agree with you, that at this age our muscle mass would’ve started to lessen year after year, unless she has been or is doing something about it? Under-eating certainly would not have helped the situation. With under-eating for so long, there is also a risk of low & high cal binging, without really even paying attention to it.
I am not sure what angle her friends are coming from, are they talking from their experience, or just about her? Last thing I’ll say, especially since you do use the word ‘debate’ is to help her discreetly, set a good example, but I highly suggest for both your sakes that she find a good objective person (not someone who she most likely feels has a stake in her appearance) to help her if she really, truly, feels like she can’t help herself. Keep the marriage smooth sailing ;-)[/quote]
Thanks for the input sorry for late response, wasn’t notified.
She was on birth control and a few people said that when they went off that, the weight came off. So she came off and nothing happened (along side some exercise and always a sensible, if not skimpy diet. So possibly not sensible. I just mean no cakes or pastries or sugar etc).
She does have a history of sporadic bodybuilding, yes. Some results in muscle gain in the past too. But she’s incredibly weak and can hardly do a push up and it took about a solid year of training to do one positive chin up rep.
And yes, I have heard from a lot of people to get an impartial 3rd party for the sake of the marriage!