Thanks for the input sorry for late response, wasn't notified.
She was on birth control and a few people said that when they went off that, the weight came off. So she came off and nothing happened (along side some exercise and always a sensible, if not skimpy diet. So possibly not sensible. I just mean no cakes or pastries or sugar etc).
She does have a history of sporadic bodybuilding, yes. Some results in muscle gain in the past too. But she's incredibly weak and can hardly do a push up and it took about a solid year of training to do one positive chin up rep.
And yes, I have heard from a lot of people to get an impartial 3rd party for the sake of the marriage!