Okay, he’s not old. My husband is 40, over weight and though he won’t admit it, he’s miserable. He’s got problems with his back and feet that cause near constant pain.
Basically, I’m worried about him and need to know if the advice I’m giving him will be helpful. He would like to lose around 40lbs, but he doesn’t know where to start. I’ve suggested several things including taking small meals to work but he claims he can’t get away from customers for 5 minutes to scarf down some protein and carbs.
I know he says he’s ready to do this, but when he refuses to take advice about what to eat and when I find it hard to believe him. I don’t know how to help him get past the menatl road blocks he’s setting up for himself or why he’s even doing it.
He’s going to a chiropractor for his back and so right now (cause I asked the doctor myself in private) lifting is out of the equestion. Running/walking is out of the question. He does have a bike.
What to do? Where to start? Should I just continue to leave him alone and only offer help when asked? Although, that’s discouraging for me because he doesn’t take the advice I give him anyway.
Don’t flog me but I do not find fat rolls atractive and though I love him intensly and always will I feel really sad that life isn’t as good as it should be. I feel like I’m in mourning. Anyways, I don’t know how male minds work through this stuff, or if anything I say or do will ever help him, but I thought I’d ask for advice anyway. I’m willing to do just about anything… I have the feeling that isn’t enough.