Does it exist?
I’m in the middle of ending a friendship with my closest college buddy, been friends 10 yrs now.
I’m doing it the only way I can see how to do it, by not returning his calls after having told him he can’t crash at my place. (He’s currently in town for a week).
The reasons why our friendship needs to end aren’t relevant to my question. But I will say this: considering his personality, I don’t want to tell him the reasons. He has an enormous ego, and cannot tolerate the slightest criticism. He is so self-centered and cemented in his own reality that he almost never can accept another’s point of view.
He’s not perfect, and neither am I, but his negative qualities outweigh his positives, and I’m not going to be associated with him anymore.
Is it wrong for me to simply not return his calls?
Is it wrong for me not to tell him why?
Is it wrong for me not to tell him face-to-face, though that makes the situation 100x more awkward and confrontational?
It would be ridiculous for 2 highly educated men in their 30s to get into a fistfight, but it is a possibility considering our personalities.
All things considered, I don’t want there to be a confrontation, just a gradual realization on his part that I’m not rtetuning his calls, I’m not going to hang out with him even though he’s in town for a week, and that our friendship is over.
Anyway, I’m probably worrying about this too much, except that he’s my only long-time friend I’m still close with.