You know I think that ultimately mental issues are involved, and this self destructive behaviour has a lot of sadness behind it.
I have alot of various thoughts on this issue but right now after seeing that picyure I am thinking of one of my best friends who is probably about 400 lbs. We have had many talks about his weight and he is the only obese person I have ever met that has never made an excuse for his weight he specifically will tell you “I am fat because of the things I eat and my lack of activity!”
I also realize that when I see him because he is such a great person truly a decent man I don’t readily see the big Fat Guy I just see my friend.
And right now he is experiancing a lot of not so good times in his life and is depressed. And that scares me as I do not want to lose my friend but I cannot make him want to begin.
I have tried and I will continue to do so but he needs to want to on his own.
If it doesn’t happen soon I will bury my Friend and then I’m going to finally feel the depression he does.
I don’t have the answer the answer is in the heart and mind of each obese person.
I’m going to call my friend.[/quote]
My brother in law is about as big as your friend and it scares me to death that he is going to leave my sister to be a young widow with 3 kids. He is a very stubborn person and doesn’t seem to want to accept the help that I have offered him. I have asked him if he wanted to start walking, or if I could come up with a nutrition plan for him. But he just says he knows what he needs to do and he’s going to start doing it. Yet, he just sits there and does nuthin’. It is a very frustrating thing to watch. I love the guy but i’m pissed at him at the same time. I’m scared it’s going to take a heart attack before he really realizes that he needs to do something. And then it might be too late. He’s only 33 for gosh sakes.
So, how do you help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. What can I do? Anyone got any ideas?